At the beginning of 2017 I shared some goals I wanted to accomplish in the year. The goals were mainly focused on pushing myself creatively. Specifically the ones that I shared were to write and share something twice a month, shoot and edit two photo projects a month, and read a book a month. I succeeded in January. I failed in February.
My tendency in my life has always been to give up on a goal once I failed at it. That sounds drastic. In some cases it has been. In other cases not so much. An easy example is any time I have ever tried doing any “Read the Bible in One Year” reading plan. It’s hard. I’m not good at it. I make it three days, miss a day, and have no idea what to do with myself, try to catch up, decide maybe next year will be better. It’s hard to keep at goals that we don’t reach.
I think it is safe to say everyone fails at some kind of goal. Everything from what you aspire to be in your career to waking up at 8:00 AM everyday (I’m currently failing at this too… You better believe ’m working on it though). The most important thing is that we need to continue towards our goals when we don’t meet them.
I had a mentor who knew I was terrible at reading, but he wanted me to read the Bible. He knew that if I tried to read a chapter of the Bible a day, it would be to ambitious. He knew I was going to fail. So instead he told me to read one chapter a week. That I could do. So for months as we meet, we would go over that one chapter a week. It was realistic, and even on weeks that I would forget or didn’t do it, he pushed me to stay at it.
Maybe you need to set a new goal. Or possibly you just need to revise the one you have now. But when it comes to failing at them, all that matters is you still chase what you intended in some form or another. For me, I still am going to aim to write, shoot and read my monthly goals. Some months I may not make the goals. Some months I may exceed. All that matters is that I have an expectation to aim towards. It feels pretty amazing when I make it. When I don’t, it pushes me to make it next time.